Memo for communicating with children of the psychological risk group (suicide)
Date: 2020-01-21 13:59:51
Memo for communicating with children of the psychological risk group (suicide)
Possible motives
Search for help. Most suicidal people don’t want to die. Suicide is seen as a way to get something (attention, love, freedom from problems).
Hopelessness. Life is meaningless, but you can’t count on the future. All hope is lost for a better life.
Multiple problems. All problems are so global and insoluble that a person cannot concentrate in order to solve them one at a time. An attempt to hurt another person: “They will regret it!” Sometimes a person thinks that having committed suicide will take away the problem and make life easier for his family.
A way to resolve the problem. A person sees suicide as an indicator of courage and strength.
How to help teens
Listen - “I hear you.” Do not try to console in common words like: “Well, everything is not so bad”, “You will feel better”, “Do not do this”. Give him (her) the opportunity to speak out. Ask questions and listen carefully.
Discuss - An open discussion of plans and issues removes anxiety. Do not be afraid to talk about it, most people feel awkward when talking about suicide, and this is manifested in the denial or avoidance of this topic. Conversations cannot provoke suicide, while avoiding this topic increases anxiety, suspicion.
Be mindful of indirect indicators for alleged suicide. Every humorous mention or threat should be taken seriously. Teenagers often deny that they spoke seriously, they can portray excessive anxiety, anger. Say that you take them seriously.
Ask questions - generalize. “It seems that you are really saying ...”, “Most people thought about suicide ...”, “Have you ever thought how to commit it?” If you get an answer, go to the specifics. "Pistol? Have you ever shot? Where will you get it? What will happen then? What if you miss? Who will find you? Have you thought about your funeral? Who will come to them? ”The unsaid, hidden you must make explicit. Help the teenager speak openly and think about their ideas.
Emphasize the temporary nature of the problems, acknowledge that his feelings are very strong, problems are complex. Find out how you can help, because he already trusts you. Find out who else could help in this situation [3].
1. An adult trying to help a teenager in whose behavior suicidal intentions are traced should remember the vulnerability and despair that reigns in his soul, to seriously take his problems [5].
You can’t
- To shame and scold the child for his intentions - You should select the key to the mystery of suicide, help to figure out the reasons
- Underestimate the likelihood of suicide, even if the child outwardly easily discusses their intentions. - It is necessary to comprehensively assess the degree of risk of suicide.
- To treat the child formally - To make him feel that he is accepted as a person and his life is not indifferent to someone
- To offer unjustified consolations, common words, banal decisions that do not take into account a specific life situation - Listen to a teenager using the words: “I hear you.” Help yourself or find out exactly who can help in this situation.
- Leaving the child alone in a risk situation - If there is such an opportunity, you need to attract relatives and friends, friends, etc.
- Excessively control and limit the child - The main thing is friendly support and support that will help him cope with difficulties
Teacher-psychologist: Nurakova G.S.
