Daughter grows in the family

                                          Daughter grows in the family

Dear mother, a daughter is growing up in your family. Being a mom is not easy. However, the mother has a huge influence on her daughter. The image of the mother often determines the whole life of her daughter and serves as an example for her, consciously or subconsciously. Mom needs to enter the world of her daughter, understand her life, thoughts and aspirations. To do this, it is necessary to talk more often and on equal terms about school affairs, events, about what he saw, read and heard, about his youth, about difficulties at work, about everything that worries mother and daughter. Remember that from these conversations your attitude to people, to life will be taken into account. Take time for this kind of communication. Moreover, you can communicate in joint work, in joint affairs.       

Your daughter is going to school. Studying is not easy work that requires all your strength. Mothers, realizing this, remove or try to remove their daughters from many responsibilities at home. Girls get used to this, and often they are not upset even by the mother's fatigue, breakdowns in health. Then, in family life, they do not like to do household chores and are looking for someone to shift these concerns to. And there is only one way out: it is necessary to give girls more often the satisfaction of this not always romantic homework. Make sure that the care of the home does not lie with the mother alone. To instill in a girl a love for housework, a taste for work, a daughter just needs to work with her mother. Best of all is brought up by the work that we ourselves love; we do with pleasure for the joy of others. This is extremely important because the joyful experience infects the child. Do not force your daughter to work, but include her in the necessary things - in joint cleaning of the apartment, cooking dinner, renovation, planting and caring for plants. Any prosaic business creates a cheerful atmosphere if the mother and daughter do everything in a friendly manner. To successfully educate girls as housewives, we can recommend the following rules: - Start with great! For example, with flowers in the house. Let this be the concern of your daughter from childhood. Let him learn to decorate the house with bouquets of fresh flowers, make compositions from dried flowers, grow and care for indoor plants. Then - flowers on the balcony and on the flowerbed. Let the girl learn to decorate life with flowers wherever she lives. - Teach your daughter handicrafts! Each mother passes on to her daughter everything that she can herself: to sew, knit, and embroider ... Skillful hands will definitely come in handy for her daughter in the future. - Teach your daughter the art of cooking! Cooking various dishes, baking pies, decorating the table, treating loved ones and guests. - Start small and gradually! You cannot get results right away without patience, wisdom, and perseverance. Only under your wise guidance, with your help, will your daughter learn to run a household. - Keep your interest! Let her come up with a new dish, let her brew tea according to her own recipe, find an interesting recipe. Present her with a beautiful cooking recipe notebook. Buy interesting books and magazines on housekeeping. - Don't give up! If something did not work out for your daughter, do not scold or scold her. Help her. Do with her, encouraging and supporting her. - Praise your daughter more often! Notice her every success. Rejoice with her. Talk about how important her help is to you. Draw positive life perspectives.

Girls are currently showing particular interest in their appearance. The problem of external attractiveness is of great importance for them. This is a manifestation of their gender. Therefore, it is very important for mothers during such a period to bring up in their daughter a desire for neatness in clothes, for hygiene, good taste, and a sense of proportion. We need to help them realize the essence of external and internal beauty; arouse the desire to be attractive not only externally, but also through the ability to communicate with people, benevolence, sensitivity, responsiveness. Teach your daughter to say kind words to family members: grandparents, dad, and girlfriends. We miss these words so much in our lives. Do you yourself often say such words to your daughters? Your praise means so much to them! In communication with the girl, a calm, benevolent analysis of the situation or behavior should prevail. One should avoid lectures, reprimands, moralizing. Unfortunately, in everyday communication, parents often act as a harsh judge and much less often express their willingness to support with a kind word or gesture, attentive listening, and the desire to understand and understand.

Recommendations for moms!

* Treat girls without preaching, without reproach.

* Do not tell, especially in the presence of your daughter, neighbors, friends, guests, friends, how good your daughter is, do not list her dignity. In addition, conversely, do not "splash out" the rumor about your daughter's shortcomings, do not judge with your neighbor about her "behavior."

* Learning is repetition. At the same time, while repeating, reminding, often encourage, not reproach.

* Know how to be silent. Sometimes silence is truly golden, especially when it comes to girlish modesty, chastity, purity. There should be no room for rude jokes or ridicule.

* Do not cry! A cry is not only an indicator of your powerlessness, weakness, but also a demonstration of incontinence, irascibility. It is even worse to "cut from day to day", "to scold". All this creates an atmosphere in the family that can turn into alienation.

* Do not respond rudely to rudeness, but show the superiority of politeness in communication.

* Consider the opinion of your daughter, consult with her. Do not be afraid to say "Sorry" when necessary.

* Talk to your growing daughter like an adult woman.

Dear mother, our happiness lies in the happiness of our children. Moreover, our present and future depends on how we raise our daughters. Our daughters are brought up by every phrase spoken, every deed done. Every day every mother brings up her daughter by her example, her attitude to people, to work, to home. Try to mobilize all your abilities in order to achieve the main thing - mutual understanding with your daughter. Patience and wisdom.

We wish you success in raising your daughters!